Envision The Best You
Volume #1, Issue #2 Thu, 11/20/2008 - 16:23
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- Mission
We are committed to supporting you in envisioning the best you possible and to create your life powerfully around that vision while having a whole lot of fun.
Visit us at http://envisionthebestyou.tipzu.com
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- Welcome
Creating our lives is not a new concept. However, it is also not a mainstream concept.
This bi-weekly newsletter will show you fun, easy ways to learn the “secrets” of those that live lives they love and create their world every day they’re alive. If you don’t believe that’s possible (the creation-part), then just keep reading. Maybe some day you’ll change your mind.
If you do believe, but you’re not sure how to go about it all, just keep reading for the gold. You know how you can read something once and then you read it again and get a deeper, more powerful understanding of what the words say or the meaning between the lines? Well, that’s what I’m talking about.
If you do believe and you know exactly of what is spoken here, then come to http://envisionthebestyou.tipzu.com and join a forum or create a new one. Let others know what has worked for you in your experience. And remember, Envision The Best You is about fun, ease and lightness. Don’t let yourself be too heavy when contributing to the conversation.
We are creating a safe haven for those who are interested in living fully.
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- What There Is To Say
Loss: Mourning Ourselves - when we lose someone, whether it’s through the passing of seasons and they pass away from this Earth, or it’s the passing of time and we lose someone in a relationship - whether it’s familial, romantic or friendship - we mourn... ourselves
When we lose someone, we often take issue with their “leaving” us. Whether we’re sad that our relative has died and won’t be there anymore to share a smile, a laugh or a friendly word... whether we’re mad that someone we’re close to has gone from our lives and left us with a void we think we may never fill... whether a romantic relationship, requited or unrequited, ends and we don’t know how to move on... often we have a hard time gaining distance and perspective of what was and what is now passed, or Past.
Moving on from the Past takes something. First, it takes getting that it is the Past. The Past is the past. It is not the Present and it is certainly not, the Future. The Past does not help when you take it with you like a piece of “baggage” into the Present. It is more helpful to simply learn from the Past and move on... into the empty space that is the Future.
Let’s take a look at the Future.
Notice that when you look out into the Future, there’s nothing there. Just empty space to fill however you see fit. Like a magic trick: first, there was nothing; and now, there’s something... You! Ta-da!
What is not out in the Future is the Past. The Past, however, is what we take into our Futures all the time. We’re carrying them when we say to our partner, How can I trust you?
If you didn’t have the Past to compare this instance with, what evidence would you have not to trust them?
We take the Past into our Present and Future when we say to our loved ones, But how will we make it work?
When you live in that empty space called the Future, you have no need to ask how or why. You just begin at the beginning - which is where you’re at when you’re in an empty space and you don’t have anything to compare it to... like a Past.
Quietly see, the person you miss... is in the Past - your Past. This is a loving acceptance; a loving embrace of truth. Your life continues on. You are in the Present. You will be in the Future. You have the memories and memories are good. Memories make you who you are.
Remember that the person you loved, maybe still love, is a reflection of you. You are a reflection of them. Maybe this reflection is in the Past too - a worthy memory like all the others. Maybe it’s time to see another reflection - a new one. Maybe the reason this season is over is because there’s a new You emerging. Like a butterfly emerges from the cocoon.
Maybe this is an opportunity for you to grow and transform yourself. Imagine the gift this could be from the one who's gone. What a gift, what a legacy they have left with you! What an amazing time to be alive. And you are... alive.
You are in the Present. They are lovingly in the Past. In a real way... like it’s a fact. And not a cold, hard fact. Just fact. Just truth. Just the way it is. Just what is so. You have a choice. Remain with them and the old reflection of you or become Present to who you are in this moment here and Now. The You emerging from the old you and your Past.
It’s your choice. Choose powerfully.
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- Fun and Games
Not such a game, but definitely freeing. Stay with me.
Find paper and a pen. Then find a place to be quiet. Take a moment to be quiet. Find a place to sit or a place to stand and rest. Allow your body to rest. Allow it to have its unrest and then allow it to find its way as it rests. Then, when all is quiet, allow your mind to see the person you miss... the one you are having trouble letting go. Let your mind retrace the curves of their face, the strands of their hair, the letters of their name or... remember that thing they used to do that you know so well - whether it irked you or made you giddy. When your mind goes to judge it, just watch that too. Watch the judgment/feeling arise and watch it subside. Watch all your memories like a slide show. Watch them come and go. Watch the ebb and the flow.
When you’re done watching... open your eyes and write. Write a letter to them... the person. Write them a letter with all the things you meant to say, would’ve liked to have said, wanted the opportunity to say. Write it all down - the love, the distinctive wit, the humorous quips, the rants, the tirades, the overtures, the songs, the poetry, the blistering, searing, seething madness, the passion, the calm, the love... Write it all down. Don’t edit yourself. Don’t edit your imagination. If they respond in your mind, write down what you would say in response. Write it out of you. Then... when you’re done, you can burn it... or you can throw it away... or, you can leave it. Let it go. Leave it and let it go.
If you feel so inclined, write a letter to yourself in the future. The You you can’t see because the Future’s only an empty space. Write to the person you want to become. Write to the person you will be in the Future, the emerging You. Write it all out... and save it. Put it away. Hide it from yourself. And forget about it.
What’s next? You’ll know when the time is right. You’ll know what to do. Until then?
Do nothing.
Let it be.
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- Familiar Quote
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love
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- Linking Us Together
I found this link just today. A book that sounds great. I dedicate it to one of our readers who had to courage to ask for what she wanted. Ask and you shall receive. That’s all I’m saying.
The Single, Picky and Indecisive Girl’s Guide to Overcoming Her Fear of Commitment
And remember darca, don’t judge a book by its cover... appearances are deceiving... and last, but not least, wisdom can be found everywhere. Just look and it will appear.
Oh... that last little ditty... that’s mine and you can quote me (wink, wink).
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Happy New Year to you,
Monique and Envision The Best You
