"This week, while you're selling somebody something, or having a heart-to-heart with a friend, or disciplining your child, take 60 seconds to think about the other person. If you were her/him, how would you feel? This process immediately injects sharing into the equation - and when that happens, every decision you make will be based on Light."

When you are in your head, you are not with another person. Being in your head often gets you into trouble because when you give weight to your thoughts, you get heavy.

I could do this all day. What is that you ask? Well, I could make all those seemingly senseless cliches make sense to you.

You see, we let our thoughts weigh us down and that equates the heaviness folks are always telling you gets you down. "Don't be so heavy!" And when you forget yourself and you're not in your head, then you become weightless (in the thought-realm, that is). "Keep it light!"

When you become heavy, you get in your own way and then life seems to come to a screeching halt. That becomes a bit of a bore. You find yourself consistently rounding the Hamster Wheel of Life and you think to yourself, "What is going on?" Well, you're in your own way. And this article is going to discuss how to get out of your way.

Cliches. We use them so often that we forget what they meant at the beginning, when they were defined. We forget, because we often just take on the cliches with a half-understanding of the cliches true meanings. I mean, while cliches aren't proverbs, you shouldn't simply discard them for the name, cliche.

We often kill things off in our lives. Without any forethought of how that "killing" affects us in the bigger picture. Another cliche, you say? Well, if that makes you want to "kill off" the possibility that this article can be of any value to you then that's how you feel. I'm here to tell you that every time you "kill off" the possibility of others being a contribution to you, you curb your own growth.

The greatest growth comes from opening yourself to the possibility that everyone, yes, I mean everyone, you meet has something to contribute to you. My personal oath to myself: listen to everyone, no matter what they say. Whatever they say will either be a mirror of something I'm already mad at myself for thinking, or it will quickly be a positive and healthy gift. Either way, I will grow from listening with an open mind.

So what have we learned so far:
1) We, as human beings, "kill possibility off" easily.
2) When we listen for the gold in what others say, we get our own
full growth as a human being.
3) Cliche. Proverb. Same thing, if you listen for the gold.
4) Listening with an open mind, can get you anything you want.
5) Everything is possible.

The biggest way we stand in our own way is by killing our own dreams. And don't be fooled. When you kill off other people's dreams, you're killing off yours too. When we kill off our dreams, we kill off ourselves a little at a time. When we kill off our dreams, we stop believing that there is anything wonderful in the world. We begin thinking that the world will always be against us. When, in fact, it was us who killed off our dreams to begin with.

What have we learned now:
1) We kill off our own dreams and then blame others for our
hopelessness.

When we take responsibility for what we've done in our own lives, we then get to take Power (not control, that's an illusion) of our own creation: our lives.

We are creative beings. Creativity is not something reserved for the few. Creativity is all that exists in this world. We create life, when we have babies. We create homes and spaces for living. We create what we're good at inside of careers and jobs. None of this, this world or our lives, is an accident. There are no accidents.

Life is a creation. Once you understand your Power inside of this creativity, then you get to choose powerfully.

How do we stand in our own way? I used to ponder this often and constantly. And being a very visual person, I often ponder this by visualizing myself literally standing in my own way. But this doesn't work. I figure, if I were a car and a pedestrian at the same time, I have enough sense to get out of the middle of the street when I see the car(s) coming. (You get my analogy?)

I don't think I'm stupid or slow in my reaction time. I figure that it's not actually an act of standing in my own way. It must be a matter of somehow I'm stopping myself, creating an obstacle for myself, or some other act of inhibition. Yes, that sounds about right. Inhibition.

When I say that word, I immediately recognize how that would stop me from having what I want. Because that's what it does, right? What do I mean? I mean that "standing in our own way" does, yes? Stops us from being all of who we can be... or it stops us from becoming who we would like to be. And with this visualization, I found what I was looking for.

That's what we all look for, right? The thing, whether it be a book or a seminar or a class or a teacher or a sport or a hobby, that will make this life make sense for us. You may have found me in that exact effort. Well, then on that note, let me share with you what makes sense to me.

Okay, remember, I'm a visual person. So when I thought of "standing in our own way" recently, for the first time I thought of putting my foot on a hose. I thought, it might be my foot on a hose, or my hand squeezing a fatter hose or tube or it might be a clamp on a hose. But think of it.

When you clamp a hose, what do you do? You stop things from flowing through the hose or tube, yes? Well, that's what's happening when you're standing in your own way. Your life is flowing, flowing, flowing, flowing. Now visualize your dreams flowing, and then you get worried, concerned, nervous or afraid and then you squeeze the tube -- like you'd wring a towel when you're nervous. Except for when you squeeze the tube here, your "flow" ceases. So whether the flow is your dream, or your hopes, or your life, until you let up on the fear, doubt, and/or nerves, until you un-squeeze the tube/hose, you will not have what you want.

Instead, you will have the worry, concern, nerves, fear and waiting. And your hope may wane in the time it takes you to realize this. And although your dreams and hopes and success is merely on the other side of where you're squeezing, you'll never see it if you stop the flow altogether.

The quote above was from a newsletter from The Kabbalah Centre in Los Angeles. Whatever you feel about Kabbalah, whatever you feel about religion, or mysticism, this quote contains truth -- as everything does. Don't kill off the possibility of this quote contributing something to you. Let it in. Take your hand off the "flow." Ease up. Lighten up. "Lift" your spirits (or your foot).

It's your life. Choose powerfully.