Envision The Best You
Volume #1, Issue #5 (Back in Business Issue) Thu, 11/20/2008 - 18:25
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Mission

We are committed to supporting you in envisioning the best you possible and to create your life powerfully around that vision while having a whole lot of fun.
Visit us at http://envisionthebestyou.tipzu.com
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Welcome

Creating our lives is our true nature. However, this is not the popular belief.
This bi-weekly tipzine has now returned to let you in on the “secrets” of those that have lives they love and who continue to create their world every day they’re alive. If you don’t believe that’s possible (the creation-part), then just keep reading. Maybe some day you’ll change your mind.
If you do believe, but you’re not sure how to go about it all, just keep reading for the gold. You know how you can read something several times and get a deeper, more powerful understanding of the words or the meaning each time? Well, that’s the “gold” I’m talking about.
If you do believe and you know exactly what is spoken of here, then come to http://envisionthebestyou.tipzu.com and join a forum or create your own. Let others know what has worked for you in your experience. And remember, Envision The Best You is about fun, ease and lightness. Contribute to the lightness of our conversation and keep the fun alive.
We are creating a safe space for those who are interested in living fully and powerfully.

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What There Is To Say

Looking Good - We are human beings and as such, we often like to look good.

What makes us this way? We, certainly, are not like the other animals. I don’t think the leopard goes around thinking, “Are my spots on straight today? Or are they a little crooked? Maybe they're wrinkled. Maybe they’re not as black as they were when I was younger. I’m fading a little. I just know it. I am.”

Well, maybe the animals are thinking. In some alternate universe.

More than likely though, they (the animals) are not. Going around wondering if they look good. Right? And “looking good” is not just what we do to literally and physically look good. No, “looking good” is also about being right and getting it right.

So when we’re trying to impress a first date, or a possible employer in a job interview, or our colleagues in a business meeting, or when we step out of our new car at that fancy restaurant, we’re “looking good.” And when we don’t, look good that is... like if we were to spill some food in our lap on that first date, or if we were to stumble over our words in that job interview, or not know the answer to a “simple” question in that business meeting, or walk around that fancy new car and then trip up onto the curb, we would not be “looking good.” We would be “looking bad,” or some version of that for ourselves as our mind ran all the thoughts of how stupid we looked or how disastrous that was or how that one incident will foil our plans of having a great day, a great week, a great month or even, a great life.

So we could say, possibly, in a nutshell, that “looking good” uses us. It has us worried about the approval of others. It has us worried, concerned, nervous, anxious and all sorts of other adjectives that we perceive as negative. And we wouldn’t even be entertaining those thoughts, if we weren’t concerned about “looking good.”

When have you been worried, concerned, nervous, anxious, or panicked because you wanted to “look good?” (Remember to think within the new context above.) Think of these particular and specific times and write them down.

Now think of some times when you were not thinking of how you would be perceived by anyone and the freedom and carefree feelings you had inside of doing what simply made you feel good. (For some of us, the last time we felt that kind of freedom was when we were children. That's fine. Remember those times count.) Write them all down.

The trick? To simply become aware of the times when you’re concerned about what other people think of you and the times when you’re not concerned at all. There are times when you fly and soar and there are times when everything around you and inside your mind come to a screeching (and often, crashing) halt. There are times when you are “used” by your desire to “look good” and there are times when those thoughts don’t even come into play in your head.

We are at our best when we are in the zone. We fly highest when we are unconcerned or not being self-conscious. We soar above the rest, when we forget our fears and face the wind... without trepidation.

Notice where you soar and where you droop like a wilting flower. Simply notice these things and I’ll talk more about this next newsletter. Remember what G.I. Joe said...

"Knowing is half the battle." (Remember, I'm funny.)

Know the times when you both are free from “looking good” and when you are constrained by “looking good.” Then write it all down.

This is not something you have to do. It’s something that if you choose to do it, could hold tremendous power and transformation for you.

It’s your choice. Choose powerfully.

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Familiar Quote

"Don't tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results."

George S. Patton
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Linking Us Together

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Come and browse. You just might find something you like.
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Happy Trails to you,
Monique and Envision The Best You